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Let’s Dispel Some Myths About Bullying

MYTH: Bullying is a simple school issue. The gang crisis got out of control because we kept trying to solve it as a police problem, not a community-wide crisis. The same is true in bullying. As long as we think the schools alone can fix it, we’ll never make headway. MYTH: Bullying is a rite…

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The Vacuum Left Behind by Absent Parents

The whole phenomenon of human nature devolving under pressure brings to mind the “Lord of the Flies” by Nobel Prize-winning author William Golding. Now mostly relegated to high school literature classes, the insightful and very topical work tells the story of a group of British boys stuck on a deserted island who try to govern themselves,…

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Hostility is Commonplace

Look at our political process. Much of our television broadcasting is filled with negative, angry, name-calling political ads that seek an attack platform instead of common ground. In many local and regional races, where there’s less oversight, these candidates don’t just want to win an election. They want to destroy their opponent. Our kids digest…

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How Bullying Got Out of Control in America

Children are bullying each other in frighteningly effective 21st century ways. These are not your father’s bullies. Armed with social media and supported by a culture that seems to glorify bullying throughout a wide spectrum of activities, today’s kids experience bullying behavior in every direction they turn. “Many parents are numb to bullying because they…

Bullying NCPCV Press No BULLIES

Bullying Defined

A dictionary definition from more than fifty years ago describes a bully as “harsh” and “cruel”, someone who is “habitually threatening to others”. After half a century the words still ring true. According to most contemporary definitions, bullying occurs when a person is exposed repeatedly to “negative actions” on the part of one or more…

Bullying NCPCV Press No BULLIES

“It becomes impossible to tell which came first, the anger or the marketing of the anger”

This phenomenon was well defined in the PBS Frontline documentary The Merchants of Cool featuring media correspondent Douglas Rushkoff. He alluded to what we are seeing as the rise of the New American Bully when he declared that youth culture and media culture are now one and the same, and it becomes impossible to tell…

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The Culture of Bullying — What Is It Really About and Why Are So Many Young People Embracing It?

Everyone is watching. A live audience and millions of national television and on-line viewers are looking on as the announcement is made that singer-songwriter Taylor Swift has won the MTV Video Music Award for Best Female Video. Immediately, Kanye West defiantly invades the stage to grab the award from a shocked Swift as a protest…

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Kids Trying Out Bullying

There are many reasons young people try out bullying and a number of specific risk factors have been identified. But we suggest that one common denominator of an emerging bully, identical to the factors involved with the decision to join a gang, is that underlying lack of hope. There is a desperate tone in the…

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Hopeful Kids Don’t Bully

“Popular culture is a powerful force. We can’t make it go away.  The best we can do is try to understand it. Then help our children navigate it”   Part of that preparation for the bully who will approach your child requires an honest look at the forces in play. For example, the epidemic of…

Bullying NCPCV Press No BULLIES

It’s Not “If,” It’s “When” Your Child Will Be Bullied: And Here’s What Your Child Shouldn’t Do (Part Three)

At fifteen yards I pull up just a bit to motion him on, waving with both hands. Wayne’s face gets even redder. He hesitates, then charges across the final yards running like a bull toward a red cape masquerading as gym shorts. At this moment, for Wayne, I cease to be a person and become…